I’ve been working with a lot of women lately, a lot of stressed women. Each of them was different and had their individual reasons to be stressed. However, there was a common pattern I would like to address.
When life hits, when things exacerbate, go wrong, this is a typical reaction:
→ It’s my fault
→ I am not good enough
→ I have to change
→ I must change before anybody notices / before it’s too late
→ I have to do it on my own
→ If I try real hard, I will succeed
→ Only then I deserve… (fill in whatever is attractive to you)
The women tense up to the degree that they eventually go numb. Only to then feel unnormal or broken, because they cannot feel. This is heartbreaking.
The opposite is true. We need to learn to relax again to be able to feel ourselves. Only then will we be able to know who we are and what kind of life we want to live. To be able to say “yes” to one thing and “no” to another. And “may be so” or “not yet” to a third thing. To live the life we want to live, not the life that we think we should live.
And we cannot do it alone. We need other women to understand who we are. As women we need the community of other women to feel we are not alone in this and to support each other, to learn from each other. There is so much wisdom in the story of other women. When we are separating ourselves from other women, when we are trying to do it on our own, we cause more suffering. When we bond, we can heal.
It takes courage to relax into what causes stress in your life at the moment. And yet, it is your path to a healthy and happy future.
𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘲𝘶𝘰𝘵𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘶𝘭 Brené Brown.
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